About Implico Reply. People tend to think that I’m Malaysian when they hear this. “tedious as well as intrusive” That’s a good way to describe the question. Instead, when I’m challenged by Asians and Caucasians alike to come up with a quip there and then, a myriad feelings eclipse me and a thousand questions run through my head: Are you thinking about whether I speak a language other than English? Thanks for sharing. Lovely – what did you think? First I answer which town I live in, which is met with “No, where are you from originally?” to which I reply which country I grew up in i.e. The other thing is how you answer of course. As an Asian Australian who speaks with a slightly tinged Singaporean-Malaysian accent, quite often here in Melbourne people ask me when we’re mid-conversation, “Where are you from?”. Change ). Where are you from? But at the same time, as you mention, it can be rather redundant. Or, see if you can attend more sleepovers with a best friend. I suppose there are many of us who are more sensitive towards the question because whatever we answer with would be how others see a part of our identity and if it gets quite deep, maybe even stereotypes on personality, behaviour and values. ‘ is poetic. I do not use static terms, descriptions etc. I’ve been working on another blog post about this question again for a while now. ‘Come and you will see’ invited them to journey to the Cross at Calvary and their own crosses, scattered throughout Christendom. For example, “I think you need to be more attentive. From the “Published” tab, you can: Reply: Click Reply to respond to a comment directly. “How do you do?” is not generally thought of as a genuine question about your well-being. Discuss what you both feel are reasonable lengths of time to expect a response. Mail a copy of your response to the county clerk's office in the location where the case has been filed within 20 days. I am from two places and not English although I live in England. I like your response of telling people where you live. Regards, I like option 8! I quite honestly cannot stand this question. The place you… The question itself is actually fairly innocent because people ask standard questions when they first introduce themselves to each other. Love Others. ‘And we continue to define people based on something that is beyond their control?’ That is a great question there, and you do bring up a valid point there in that the past doesn’t always reflect how we truly feel about places or others in general. Then an interesting and friendly conversation follows before we part and go our different ways. It goes to show how judgmental and narrow-minded some people can be. They would probably not be expecting that answer. ‘Come and you will see’ took them to work among the poorest of the poor. Please, someone give me some hints! Your parents are probably Peranakan, and you probably speak Hokkien. Not only is there usually a kind of assumption others have about you when they ask that question, there is sense they want to make a personal connection – or maybe not realise they are getting personal (personal to us) and more often than not are inclined to go with social norms. BTW, I was in SE Asia last year, and loved Singapore and Penang. My background is kind of like yours – parents escaped Mainland China to Taiwan during communist invasion. It often tends to be a conversation starter for a lot of people. The bottom line: why would I want to talk about the past? For additional information regarding your concern, please contact Microsoft account support. Like you, I tend to be more sensitive towards the question no matter how many times I’ve been asked it. 🙂, I think most of the time, people really are just curious about my background and want to know more. The second – What parish do you belong to? I’ve had some conversations with some people where I can just feel that they want to know where I’m from but don’t dare voice that question, possibly afraid they’ll offend me I presume. Where we are from and where we feel comfortable calling home is dependent on our individual choices and experiences. I am only interested in pursuing the life that was meant for me, and I am not even slightly interested in talking about the past that I fought to get away from. 🙂, Be my guest, BLT. There are not too many things that can offend me but people asking me where I am “really from” is one of the few things that does. The caption ‘Each pair of shoes travels far and wide. Having grown up in Asia and Australia, “home” is essentially foreign to me – I feel attached to each country I’ve lived in in some way. I do feel (and I hope it doesn’t offend anyone who may read this) that we do live in a white culture, in the sense that generally speaking most people won’t ask a white person where they’re from, unless perhaps if they have a different accent. I’m sure it’ll be lots of fun 🙂. Microsoft account support I’ve been in the UK for 30 years and speak without a hint of Chinese accent, yet when anyone has a conversation with me for the first time and asks “Where are you from?”. Home is what we make it to be. Down under is next on the list. Chinese and complicated…I like that way of describing yourself, and when you describe yourself that way to others, you don’t get too many other questions… 😀, Mabel, The proper answer is either, “Fine, thank you,” or “How do you do?” or some form thereof. Here are 16 advanced ways to respond to 'thank you' in both casual and formal situations! Using this reply, I’m in a sense diverting attention away from myself. The house you grew up in? Sorry – but in my experience, I do not find the question intimidating in the least. A lot of the time the present is where we’re at, where we rightfully live in the moment to learn and define ourselves. At times, I feel sad because it’s hard for me to truthfully express who I am in one quick sentence to nice, down-to-earth people asking the said question. So we’d rather not be asked it. Thank you for the response. (Which is also kind of not clear, but oh well, better than explaining where I’m from. If I had a dollar for every time I am asked this question… I look Swedish, I have a Scottish accent but I was born in California and my roots run so deep in the Americas that I have Central American DNA. ), It really is no one’s business to know where we’re from. Funny how people never really get “Where are you from” correct when we ask them to guess…do they even want to guess correctly and get the question correct? Where are you staying? Always fun to get people to guess where you are from. I get this question a lot in the U.S. At first most people here just guessing that I came from the Philippines (so far only one person who guessed correctly that I came from Indonesia). I get this question a lot but it certainly doesn’t carry the same weight and I like to have them guess as well, especially when I’m in a playful mood. Most of them would be very, very surprised and some might be a bit insulted – that is, if they are a local living where we’re at. Where are you from instantly makes it feel like I’m not from here, but perhaps I’m a bit more sensitive towards this question, as it’s been something that’s been asked my whole life. 13 Reasons Why is a Netflix series based on a book by Jay Asher. So most of the questions like “Are you christian, buddhist, vegetarian, democrat, Greek, Chinese… this and that?” are not so easy to answer. Until now! I’m sorry to disagree with your views Conrad in that ‘That will change over time though’. This week, I invite that gospel question of the disciples to be the question of your prayer – “Where are you staying? When asked, I answer the truth: “I’m a Pakistani Frog who lives in Mexico”. xD hahaha…, Hahaha! But it’s the present and our choices in the present that shape us who we are right now. We carry our hearts wherever we go, and who we are is the makeup of the heart. Where do you live?" I guess I need to ask that question back at people more. The two disciples stay with Jesus the rest of that day, from 4:00 on. The North, the South, midwest, etc. For you though your accent would confuse a lot of people la. For as the disciples discovered, there are no guarantees in that reply of Jesus. To post in live chat, click into where it says “Say Something” and begin typing. It is an very interesting background you have, Yvor. Close to his love. And it’s not like I completely took all the cultural features but shared some of them. Instead it’s treated more like a salutation. Promise to Protect Webpage: Frequently Asked Questions, Tips for Talking to Children about Difficult Subjects/News Reports, Hope, Healing And Forgiveness After Abortion, Prevent and Protect STL (Protecting God’s Children). I grew up with my country’s ideologies, just like everyone else. After seeing the pic at the top of your post and reading ” Each pair of shoes travels far and wide”, I thought for sure you were going to say, “I’m from everywhere my shoes have taken me”! It is a very personal question and we all should keep that in mind. 2. My ethnicity is Portuguese, Guyanese, Brazilian, Trinidadian & Jamaican. The thing is: 5) I don’t understand what people exactly want to know and it’s not so appreciated to ask 10 questions back, whereas most of the people answer with one name. Here's how to answer that age-old … It seems the hope (perhaps saying the same thing as you differently) might have more to do with the excarnate creatures that we have become to live an incarnate (kingdom of God within) life that is “spent” toward Christ and His will to win over by love in uncommon unity with all souls because we are all made in the image of God. Your photograph captures beautifully that moment of looking into the world and yet holding our own space at the same time. My first memories come from there. Where do you live? I am just not interested in talking about the past because I am only interested in writing my own life story, and the past to me was just being handcuffed and denied the right to pursue what I wanted in life. You never know. Lived in [name the countries you lived in]. Reside definition is - to be in residence as the incumbent of a benefice or office. I found your blog when googling answers for “Where are you from?”. Subject: Message body. Guess where. I really like all of your suggestions to, “Where are you from?”. I finally called ebay customer support and it seems that the problem was with my browser. I’m going to try it from now on. My accent really does confuse people and sometimes their mouths fall open. Close to the places where He spent His energy. In a classic Seinfeld episode, Elaine sits surrounded by friends with kids as they accost her with the now-infamous line: "You gotta have a baby!" And I agree with you. I’m sure you don’t get the question all the time, if at all. You don’t have to go through it alone, and a problem shared is a problem halved. Read More: What Happens If You Do Not Respond to a Civil Summons? It may call you to March in usually freezing cold weather in Washington D.C. proclaiming the value of LIFE from the womb to the tomb. I have emailed her but not had a reply. 2.      My parents are from Malaysia. I think I might try and see how many different answers I can give before we get to my ethnic background. ‘Come and you will see’ took them to work among the poorest of the poor. But if you are like me, you get tired of those questions, don’t you? Usually, they catch on to my humorous side and gamely play along. I think some of us are just very honest people that way, and we know we can’t give an honest answer to the question. “Is that a Scottish accent I hear?” I don’t mind being asked it most of the time, but it’s only when it’s asked very suddenly out of the blue. Be solution driven. To you, is where you are from the town you were born in? Where are you from? Make Disciples. 2. The person who asked the question seemed quite miffed at that response, and you are right in saying that not all responses will go down well with everyone and in each context. In this case, you should choose a time when you are calm, and in person, to discuss with your boyfriend how it makes you feel when you send a text,, and he doesn't respond for a long time. I think a lot of the time they don’t expect to play this lovely guessing game. Lita, Thanks for stopping by this older post, Lita. on both sides I have Portuguese, Guyanese, then on my mum’s side I have Brazilian and Trinidadian and my dad’s side Jamaican. For example, when people ask “Where are you from?” they’re usually wondering where the person was born and raised. Just because I’ve got a foreign mother mean I’m an expert on that country. So true what you said – not all of us will have ties with a certain place even if our parents do. Here are 14 ways how: 1. ( Log Out /  Sometimes we are just plain curious about where someone has been, and the most direct way to ask it is ‘Where are you from?’ It is very thoughtful of you to not generalise. ‘Come and you will see’ invited them to journey to the Cross at Calvary and their own crosses, scattered throughout Christendom. If you go back in history both American and Australia accents were formed largely from English speakers from different areas/accents all mixing with each other. And one few long-lasting problems I’m trying to find a key to. You are you, Kerry. Thank you for another insightful post. But as the video shows, sometimes the person asking the question just can’t comprehend funny responses and may get offended. A little bit of background: I am from British Columbia because it is where I have chosen to live and it is quite honestly the only place in North America where I would ever willingly live. From my experiences residing in different continents, I’ve learnt to affiliate with both Asian and Western values, making my identity a complex one. So far, I’ve responded with these statements and here are the reactions I get: This is very true. Seriously, outside of the Pacific Northwest I just hate the rest of the continent, although please understand that this is just my view and I know mine is no more “correct” than anyone else’s and anyone is free to disagree with me. You have two different options for replying to a post within the Discussions tool:. React to public comments. Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. Live chat badges. Sometimes when I ask a Caucasian where they are from, they look at me as if I’m joking and am being ridiculous asking such a question. Pretty sure a lot of the time, many who ask me this question want to know where I call home and expect a simple, straightforward answer. I would imagine that most people don’t mean harm when they ask you, though. This was actually one of the first photographs I took that got me into photography. You definitely have a hard situation to describe in response to that question. Usually I just say I am from BC, although when I am actually in BC it is a bit harder since then people are more likely to try to dig deeper. And since I feel like the Netherlands is my second home, I find it’s bit confusing to answer the question, so I always reply as “It’s complicated, I have two home countries.” 😀  3.      I grew up in Singapore. I’m a first time visitor and I’m really enjoying your blog. I’m a halfie! Your blog on that subject brought me to your writing. [India] Why I said I'd never go to India, and why I am - Around the World with Kav P. Instructions in Section B here: Windows Live Mail and Outlook Mail ; Once the account has downloaded all the folders, copy messages from the other folders in Windows Live Mail containing the messages you want to transfer into the new folders under the new Outlook.com account. May have to post it on my blog one of these days. 1) I don’t like to be framed or put a label on me. Friendly strangers often mention where they are (presumably) born and then the ball’s in my court. What I experience is – I grew up there. What do you do? If someone asks you: “Where do you live?” how do you answer that? I stay dynamic. A lot of the time the question is annoying to me. Good for you and nice you get interesting conversations out of it. When you face challenges, learn how to share with someone you trust and do not forsake good counsel. (Or maybe I will move to Penang?) “Where are you staying?” It is one of the more important questions that the disciples ask Jesus. Later I took some from Indian, native American, Finnish, Chinese while continued to have the interest in Japanese and Hawaiian. It’s quite normal for children regardless of where they are born to pick up the accents from their parents. I was born in Taiwan and moved to Canada when I was 4 years old. My response usually changes depending who I’m talking to. It really is a loaded question. Sometimes when I am out taking photos with my camera (this is a hobby of mine) in Melbourne, I get strange looks from white Australians and at times they will purposely stop behind me and let me take a picture so they will not get in the way. Many times when others have asked the question I like to go, ‘What relevance does it have?’. Sounds like you are trying to give an honest answer as possible. Moved back to Taipei for a few years in the early 90s then did my MBA in the States, then got a job in Canada. I don’t want to give the answer people “want” because then the framing and tons of prejudice, preconception, and weird questions, and “related” news show up. The first tells you that I was in the seminary from early on. Interestingly I have the European version of the film which has the better front cover on it. And we continue to define people based on something that is beyond their control? I usually say this when I’m having a bad day or when I’m not in the mood for conversation. I’ve seen it before. More than any other place we visited on that trip. _) Now Kwong? The movie I’ve mentioned I enjoyed watching because it does I believe answer this topic. What do you mean exactly? Nevertheless, I get people reiterating the question to me again, or they will prod, “Where did you grow up?”. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. To the question, I responded, “That is completely irrelevant”. Maybe not many people in the US know where Indonesia is. The first – What high school did you go to? Because both of them lead to rather predictable conversations – about different pastors and priests or different high school sporting events or plays or competitions. It is a very honest answer, but at the same time someone might take it the wrong way and think you are insulting them. Summer is opening up all the parks here and the weekend is helping everyone be social. ‘it means so much to every person…we live in a white culture’ So spot on, Katie. I suppose if you take the time to know someone and what they can do and in general the way they think and behave, then “Where are you from?” becomes less and less daunting and awkward. This option usually happens by accident because I sometimes panic if I’m not ready for the question as stupid as it sounds! But it can also be a tactic in emotionally abusive relationships. Thanks for sharing this video Matt! All three questions seem innocuous at first glance. Love number #8. if you don’t mind I am going to start using it. “It doesn’t matter” reminds me of a time recently where I responded to this extended. Even in 50 years time or so a second or third generation Asians will still be asked ‘Where do you come from?’ The YouTube video above is an example of that. Sometimes, I feel flush when confronted with the intrusive question. But definitely agree, best not to ask this question when you first meet someone. Where I grew up? While I was growing I absorbed mostly American-ish and Japanese culture. Anyway, of course I was forced to live elsewhere completely against my will. It must be interesting when people met you and they wonder where you lived previously. But if you have a positive attitude, well, this question will always be a fun one 🙂, I’ve also been asked this question quite a few times but sometimes I feel uncomfortable with answering it. Now I live in three countries. If you get them all correct, you can be my friend. I typically understand people are just curious , but I also felt annoyed sometimes. When people ask me where I’m from, I tell them where I’m living now. By saying you’re from a certain ethnicity, you leave out the others and in a way, it’s not a completely honest response. Or when I feel apprehensive towards the person asking me the question or the person sounds nosy. Do they think they know more than us about “where we’re from”? Omg, I just thought up of a good response to use, the next time someone asks me where I’m from: “We are the Borg. I also think the question goes against so many of our supposed cultural values. And now I know where I will live for the rest of my days – following this one, letting his dream become my dream, letting his passion become my passion. But I believe I have the right to live my life the way that I know it was meant to be lived and not talk about the past. Love God. To all the places where Jesus lives, where Jesus stays, we are invited to stay. Honestly, we claim to live in a society that values freedom for all and yet we still try to force someone to talk about their past even if they say it’s offensive? But I agree, it is best not asking this question on the first time meet up. It must be frustrating. I usually get this question asked to me a lot as I don’t look like my other family members (I’m quite fair skin & they are all darker than me) & I also don’t look like I’m from on particular country.

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